I hear women complain about how they are not enjoying their marriages. One thing I notice is that they blame everyone for the struggles in their marriage but themselves. Do you really think you are not to blame for the problems in your marriage?
Below are 10 mistakes women make in marriage
1. USING INTIMACY AS A BARGAINING TOOL
So many women use sex as a bargaining tool in their marriages, and this is absolutely wrong. It’s wrong to deny your husband intimacy because you want money to change your wardrobe, or maybe you want a new car. Using intimacy as a bargaining tool in your marriage is absolutely wrong.
2. NOT TAKING GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF
I see so many women make this mistake in their marriages. Before you got married to him, your appearance was so important, but you neglect how you look and stop taking good care of yourself the moment you get married. Just because you are now married is no excuse to stop being beautiful. Your husband expects continually to see that beautiful woman he got married to, and you also have to look beautiful for yourself too. Try to keep that body he fell in love with.
3. NAGGING
No man loves a nagging woman. Stop justifying your nagging, it’s wrong. You can’t complain about everything your husband does and expect peace. There are better ways to handle issues in your marriage, and nagging isn’t one of them. Quit abusing and shouting at your husband; he is your husband and not your son.
4. BEING INSECURE
Being insecure is another mistake woman make in their marriage. I understand you would rather not share your husband with anyone, but if you can’t really trust him, why then did you get married to him? I see women fighting other women over a man, and that’s bullish*t if you ask me. The other woman isn’t the problem; your husband is the problem. Instead of fighting the other woman, try to find out why your husband still have you and fancies her. Never bring yourself that low to fighting another woman publicly because of a man.
5. TREATING YOUR IN-LAWS AS STRANGERS
You don’t expect your husband to cut all ties with his family because he got married to you. It’s wrong, and I strongly believe that if you truly love a man, you would love everything about him, his family. Learn to respect his family and don’t treat them as rags. I understand mothers-in-law can be annoying sometimes because they feel you are taking their place in their son’s life, but disrespecting her won’t solve the problem.
6. DIALOGUE IS IMPORTANT WHEN THERE IS ANY DISAGREEMENT
There are bound to be times in your marriage when you and your husband would disagree on certain issues, but bringing down the roof or broadcasting your differences to the world solves nothing but only worsens it. Learn how to pass across your point to your husband peacefully and respectfully. Respect for each other is needed for any marriage to work.
7. BEING IMPATIENT
This is another mistake woman make in marriage. Patience is needed if you want your marriage to work. You have to learn how to be patient with your partner. I believe if you can’t be patient with your partner, then you are not ready to get married. Patience is needed in marriage.
8. IGNORING HIS STOMACH
I understand you are a busy woman, and it’s really not easy combining managing a home and your career, but I still think application of wisdom here is important. I understand your busy schedule means you require a cook at home to prepare the meals, but I still believe the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Ensure your man is well-fed and don’t just leave everything to the cook. Cook your man his meals when you get the chance to.
9. WRONG FRIENDS
This is another major mistake most woman have. I believe you need to choose your friends properly because not every one would mean well for you. Don’t just pour your heart out to anyone. It’s really wrong discussing the flaws of your husband with friends. I sometimes understand you just require someone to talk to, but you should ensure you select the right person, and you also need to watch what you pour out.
10. SECRETS
Keeping things away from your husband is really wrong, as it’s the fastest way to destroy trust. You and your husband are supposed to be a team, and a team won’t work smoothly when there are secrets.
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